Okay so I am finally admitting this to the public, why? Because I am NOW doing something about it. I have been known to say, "people shouldn't complain unless they are going to do something about it" (unless your pregnant, I think that gives your rights, hee, hee,hee).
So here it goes......since getting pregnant and having my baby (who I love and adore), I have struggled with bits of depression, weight gain, and anxiety. Then again some days are great and I have no problems. Anyway, my point is I have struggled, (and I'm sure my husband has suffered too, if you know what I mean) but NOW I am doing something about it.
I have listed 10 things I have been working on:
1. Realizing that sometimes certain situations are just part of life. For example, every new mother goes through a hard faze trying to figure out how to balance this new life.
2. Spiritual and temporal time is important. One example; I got my hair cut and actually fix it now! I also try to get scripture study in every day. I have kept going in and out of this habit, and it is still a struggle because of not being able to focus well, but I have made a goal and it makes me feel A LOT better when I take time to meditate and communicate with the Lord.
3. I have started a diet. This is REALLY hard for me, BUT it gives me a weird sense of satisfaction, like there is hope for my poor body, and I have control over my life. It's all about mind over body. I will add exercise in a couple days....one thing at a time.
4. I have went to a doctor to take care of multiple small minor things like headaches, muscle tenseness, etc. If my depression and anxiety continue I will go to the doctor for help too.
5. I have relied more on those who love me. I have tried to let my Husband, family and friends be more of a strength to me. I am learning to be interdependent with my husband instead of, independent or completely dependant. I think interdependence is the best way.
6. I have tried to put these few precious years in perspective. My son will only be this age for a little while, he grows so much everyday. Also, I may never again experience having so much family living close and able to help.
7. I try to recognize when I may be struggling and realize that my perspective may not be the best at that time, so I should wait and make important decisions later. I also realize that I may need to hold my tongue and not say things I may regret later.
8. I have started keeping a journal randomly. Sometimes it better to get something off my chest by writing rather than talking to a person. This is especially important since those feelings usually pass in a couple days, hours, or moments. I also try to report happy events in my journal.
9. I look at pictures, take pictures, etc. This helps me remember that life really is fun!
10. I have now openly admitted some of my struggles and know that I am still a good person. I realize that others may have some of the same struggles. I want others to know you can make it through. I know I will. I no longer feel sorry for myself.
Well that's about it. I just wanted to share that for 2 reasons:
1. to let others that are struggling that you are not alone.
2. Taking action and writing down my goals so that everyone can read them, makes me more committed to success, and it just feels good to get it out!
4 comments:
Good for you and good luck. You'll do great.
Don't worry its really common especially after having a baby to be depressed. I still struggle with it, how long are these baby blues suppose to last!!!! Anyways your not alone and I was thinking since my husband has been begging me to start working out, we should do it together. We were a good team before, although I remember having a personal training for one day and that was it. Call me anytime if you want to hang out...I totally need it!
You never fail to impress me. You are such an amazing person. I've always looked up to you and continue to do so! Good luck with everything. I tried a diet once and it lasted a whole like 3 days. I just don't do diets. But I know you can.
I totally understand what you have gone through...expect having a baby, I too have started to make goal setting a priority in my life. I have always been one that has told others just do something about it, and then when I struggled with motivation I was extremly humbled and realized that it's hard to get back track after you have let yourself go. I wish you all the best in your goals, I know that you are amazing and will grow so much!
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